My not-to-do list Here is my not-to-do list that helps me stay focused on important and high-level tasks: No administration (I’m really lousy with papers) No free lectures and no free consulting, with a few exceptions Mentoring one young person a year Lecturing at conferences I personally really want to attend Going to countries I haven’t traveled to yet No stress and anxiety, always action-oriented No letting fear limit me, always facing my fears No unrealistic expectations No cognitive distortions and negative thinking No dealing with haters or spending time with zombies and emotional vampires No working with bozos or irrationally
Tag: life skills
About all the useful skills you should develop, because they are desirable or even necessary for full participation in everyday life.
There are some simple rules in life. If you live in your negative past, you soon become bitter, depressed or overwhelmed by regret. It’s a double knockdown by life (tough past, tough present) and a challenging negative spiral. If you’re afraid of not controlling your future completely or repeating your past mistakes in the upcoming times, you become a very anxious person. And if you aren’t aware of your personal power that you always have in the present moment, you can become a too extreme hedonist or a fatalist, going only where life kicks you; and life often kicks you
Your competence level is basically an accumulation of internal resources in your past. The more internal resources that you accumulated in the past, the more competent you are. The good thing is that competences accumulate over time, and thus a potential for exponent growth and compounding exists. Today, in the creative society, competence is the biggest safety and advantage you can really have, and the main source of self-actualization, meaning doing work you really enjoy; and it doesn’t matter if you’re starting your journey as independent entrepreneur, freelancer or are employed. The higher your competence level is, the more you
I will sound a little bit harsh in this post because it’s a difficult truth, but most people are very judging towards others and very indulgent towards themselves (for the same things), at least in a few major areas of life that define the quality of living – health, wealth, relationships etc. and that are, in their essence, very hard to manage. It’s not easy to have a six-pack, even less so to get rich or have really close and deep relationships with family, friends and your spouse. As an exaggerated example: people think that if they use olive oil
The idea that you should work smarter, not only harder isn’t anything new. When talking about the difference between smart and hard work it’s pretty simple to explain what working hard means. If you want to be successful in the long run, you have to put long hours into work. You have to start early, before all other people, and you have to stay up late, when everyone else is already enjoying their afternoons and evenings. On the other hand, it’s really hard to find very clear guidelines on what working smart really means and how it’s different from hard work.