Split testing – when you’re not sure how to decide between two options

The idea of split testing in personal life is that you go a step further from only weighing advantages and disadvantages of each option that you have on a piece of paper – you know, drawing the standard table with pluses and minuses and then still going for the option with more minuses, just because you feel differently from what the table is showing you. Sometimes a simple pro-con table can’t give you good enough insights to match your instincts. But your instincts can still be wrong. That’s why it often makes sense to do real experiments in life that give you deep insights and understanding of the situation. An understanding that’s more reliable than only your instincts and assumptions. Split testing is one of the best ways to do such experiments.

How to study, learn & master things faster than people with the highest IQ

Informal education is becoming as important as formal education. Real learning in today’s times begins after you finish formal education. If you want to be successful today, you have to know how to study and how to use your brain properly, especially after you finish school; because real learning and studying never end. That doesn’t mean you can’t benefit from knowing good learning practices if you are still a student. This blog post is a collection of all the best learning practices and basic rules that you should follow when it comes to formal and informal learning. Rading the blog post will help you become a better learner – an outstanding learner.

Everything you need to know about minimalism as the coolest lifestyle

In the past 5 years or so, minimalistic living became something very close to my heart and an important part of my life design and superior personal organization. More and more people are joining this movement, since it’s really one of the coolest and most beneficial lifestyles to follow in today’s cluttered world. In this article, I will describe my experience of going from a messy person who kept every small useless thing to becoming an unhealthy ascetic person and then finally a healthy minimalist, hoping to convince you to also try and experiment with this life design concept. Living a minimalistic lifestyle not only makes room for the important things in life, but it’s also a great weapon against being bombarded with products and sales offers everywhere. Not to mention that minimalism makes your wallet full and happy. After making the first steps towards minimalism, you quickly realize that …

30 Day Challenge – One of the best ways to develop new habits

A 30 Day Challenge is a proven strategy for implementing new healthy habits in life. It’s a great way to try new things, keep life variety high and undertake new challenges without putting too much pressure on yourself. People do all kinds of challenges, for taking better care of their health, doing various type of art or pushing themselves through fears that always hindered their life. You can find many success stories online in different blog posts and forums. If you’ve never done any 30 Day Challenge, you absolutely have to try one. There is no completely fulfilled life without at least one successfully performed 30 Day Challenge. You have to know the extraordinary feeling of being proud of yourself on the last day, right after you complete the 30th repetition; and then you might even stick to the new behavioral pattern, who knows.

The best tools for successful conflict resolution in personal relationships

Every single relationship is also a bit of a power struggle. Most often the struggle is very subtle and goes unnoticed. These are all the times when you’re making small compromises, looking for common ground, gently testing the boundaries and exchanging superficial thoughts and opinions – selecting a place to eat, a movie to watch or gossiping about a third person. But from time to time, the power struggle escalates. At the end of the day, you can’t agree with everyone on everything and you can’t always find common ground. The bigger the differences in goals, opinions, beliefs, interests, values, ideas, motivations or desires, especially the ones that are very important to you, the fiercer the conflict usually is. Conflicts become especially strong when you take something personally or when relationship boundaries are seriously breached. That's when good conflict resolution skills come into play.

Timing is everything – here is how to hit the perfect timing

It’s all about being in the right place at the right time. It’s all about having a good intuition for when the time is ripe for making a move. It’s all about timing. Timing is everything. The good news is that you are the one controlling timing. You are the one taking action. Even if you do nothing, that is your move. You are the one with a specific life strategy and tactics. And you definitely must count timing into your strategy. But to understand timing, you have to first really well understand the connection between your goals and your environment. So let's start exploring how to hit the perfect timing.

The 5 Whys technique – dig deep to find the root cause of any problem

5 Whys is an analytical technique that helps to explore cause-and-effect relationships when you encounter a problem. The basic idea is to repeat the question “why?” until you find the root cause. That most often requires asking the question why at least five times. That’s where the name comes from. Nevertheless, don’t stop at the fifth why if you need to dig deeper. Employing the 5 Whys technique when you encounter a problem especially helps to avoid logical traps, discussions based on wrong assumptions, and avoiding the essence of why the problem is really happening. Consequently, you can easily avoid playing the blame game, feeling sorry for yourself and doing any other unproductive activities, and go straight to finding the source of the problem. It's popular in business, but you can use the same principle to identify many root causes of problems in your personal life.

Emotional flashbacks – when your emotional response is out of proportion

Emotional flashbacks push you into one of the four responses to danger (fight, flight, freeze, fawn), even when there is no danger. You experience an emotional flashback when a trigger in the environment reminds you of your childhood pain, suffering and traumatic situations. A subject, object, item, place, expression or any other kind of trigger reminds you of all the past events that caused you constant pain. There is a small similarity between the current and past event, and that triggers an emotional flashback. From psychological point of view, an emotional flashback happens as a delayed response to childhood abuse. They are direct messages of your painful past, alerting you how unfairly you were treated and how much pain you had to suffer.

Complex PTSD: From Surviving to Thriving – Book Summary

Post Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD) happens when you can't get rid of disturbing thoughts about one shocking event that happened to you. Complex PTSD is on the other hand caused by long-term emotional trauma in interpersonal relationships, and is most often the result of stressful upbringing. Complex PTSD can be caused by overly critical parents (who only want to do good), emotionally distant parents (who just lost their job, for example) and all the way to cruel verbal and physical abuse (parents breaking their children to feel better). You can find many depressed parents, aggressive parents, workaholic parents, and that all leads to them destroying their children’s lives. Consequently, being in such a toxic environment, a child never learns that relationships in life can be comforting and enriching. The book Complex PTSD: From Surviving to Thriving written by Pete Walker is the number one book to go to if you …

The execution mode – without execution skills everything is futile

Disruptive innovation, superior organization and flexibility are the most important front runners of any success. Creativity, exceptional execution and regular adjustments are the three building blocks that lead straight to the top. You have to work smart, you have to work hard and you have to stay agile in the process. From the trio – innovation, execution and flexibility – execution is the most important. Here’s why. If you lack creativity, but you are a good executive, you still get somewhere in life. You can outwork and outperform others to a certain level. You have to work much harder and life might not seem fair to you compared to people who work much smarter, but hard work still gets you somewhere.