Category: Psychology

Psychology is an academic discipline and social science that strives to understand unconscious and conscious behavior and mind of individuals and groups.

Psychologists explore different types of behavioral and mental processes, including perception, attention, cognition, emotion, intelligence and motivation. We also must not forget the examination of how personality and interpersonal relationships develop, as they are an important part of psychology.

On the practical individual level, psychology is all about making people’s life experience happier, more productive and fulfilling. It somehow includes more scientific, systematic and long‑term approaches of personal development to tackle bigger emotional challenges like depression, anxiety, isolation and procrastination.

Psychology (especially psychiatry) also deals with mental illnesses that are treated as serious medical conditions with a combination of medications, therapy and other techniques.

This category is a collection of psychology articles that discuss issues and solutions beyond the power of popular psychology and more superficial personal development tools; however, the articles don’t deal with issues that require medical attention (schizophrenia, chronic depression etc.), since I am not a doctor.

The articles present different types of psychological therapy (psychoanalysis, CBT, transactional analysis etc.), their tools and how they can be applied in personal life. If you are interested in psychology and different types of therapy, these category is the perfect choice for you.

Toxic Parents – Parents who do unloving things in the name of love – Book summary

Whether you want it or not, your parents plant mental and emotional seeds in you. These seeds grow as you do. In some families, they are seeds of love, respect and independence. But not in all of them. In many others, they are seeds of fear, obligation, or guilt. There are many parents who act abusively towards their children, and such toxic behavior becomes consistent and dominant in a child’s life. All parents make mistakes in upbringing. That’s normal, since there’s no perfect parent. But there is a clear line when too many mistakes, especially repeating abusive behavior towards children, lead to a toxic home environment that does severe emotional damage to an innocent young person. Parents who carry a promise of love and care, while at the same time mistreat their child, are called toxic parents. Almost all toxic parents say they love their children, and they usually also …

Attached: The New Science of Adult Attachment – Book Summary

The attachment style is a blueprint for how we survive/thrive in adult relationships, based on what we have learned about relationships and attachment being fully dependent on our caretakers. We know four different attachment styles, one healthy and three toxic ones. Your dominant attachment style tends to influence how you view intimacy and togetherness, how you deal with conflict, your attitude towards sex, ability to communicate your wishes and needs, and what kind of expectations you have towards your partner and the relationship. Your attachment style greatly defines how happy, fulfilled and successful you’ll be in relationships and in general. The main message of the book is that if you want to become independent, happy and fulfilled in life, your main job is to find the right person to depend on. Because if your partner is unable to meet your basic (attachment) needs, you experience a chronic sense of disquiet …

Mindset – The new psychology of success – Book summary

If you possess the fixed mindset, you are most concerned with how you’ll be judged; the growth mindset makes your primary concern how you can improve yourself. With the fixed mindset, you see the traits as fixed, and consequently success is about proving you’re smart or talented. The fixed mindset is all about validation. On the other hand, the growth mindset is more about stretching yourself to learn something new. With the growth mindset, your goal is to develop yourself and become the best version of yourself. People in a growth mindset always seek a challenge and, even more importantly, they thrive on it. Entering the world of two different mindsets, the most important question you have to ask yourself is the following: If you had to choose, what would your priority be – loads of success and validation or lots of challenges? With a summary of a book on …

Understanding schemas – Mental structures that support deep negative beliefs

You view the world through your schemas. Schemas are mental structures providing a framework for representing some aspect of the world. They not only help you organize the vast majority of information in a manageable way, they also provide lenses for interpreting reality. Schemas are cognitive structures for screening, coding, and evaluating every stimulus from the environment. You do use schemas to organize your current knowledge, but they also provide a framework for further understanding – predicting what will or should happen in the future. They influence your attention and absorption of knowledge. They also represent your core beliefs and values. Schemas are like lines of code that run in your brain, giving you instructions for how to interpret things, feel about different events, react and, in the end, also predict the future. They create feelings, thoughts and lead you to certain decisions and actions.

Cognitive reframing – it’s not about what happens to you, but how you frame it

All situations that happen to you in life have no inherent meaning. You are the one who signs a meaning, seeing a situation through a certain frame. With cognitive reframing, you can change the way you look at something and consequently change how you experience it. That kind of an approach enables you to implement the ancient wisdom that you can’t always control what happens to you, but you can certainly control how you react to different situations – no matter how tough your position might be. And that’s the ultimate power you always possess. If you want to change something, be it how you feel, how you do things or what you believe, the change always begins with you switching your thoughts and reframing how you see reality. Your thoughts about the situation that happened to you are always more important than the situation itself.