Jumping to conclusions is one of the most common forms of negative thinking. The problem with this type of a cognitive distortion (or cognitive bias) is that conclusions are in most cases negative; catastrophically negative. You usually jump to a negative conclusion without any justifiable facts of the situation or reality. In the next step, you start torturing yourself with how unlucky you are. The “Jumping-to-conclusions” mindset is like owning a crystal ball that predicts only misery. If you had such a crystal ball , what would you do with it? You would throw it immediately away, of course. So there is not a single reason to keep such a negative way of thinking in your mind.
Author: Blaz Kos
You can go to the best fortuneteller in the world, and it’s still impossible to predict the long-term future. Nobody knows what will happen in 10 years’ time, even less what life has prepared for you or for anyone else for that matter. There are just too many variables. Your values change over time, you have no idea where the global flows will turn and what kind of life opportunities or tragedies will test your character. The long-term future is a complete mystery. But with short-term planning and predicting, we can definitely be more confident and optimistic. You can play a fortuneteller at least to some extent when it comes to the near future. Are you wondering how? The best way to predict the short-term future is to look at your (or anyone else’s) short-term history.
For most of my career, I’ve been working with rich people from all over the world – entrepreneurs, investors, investment bankers, business angels, managers, lawyers and others. When I was in my 20s, working with successful business people was really fascinating and a big honor to me, and not to mention the best learning experience ever. Now in my 30s, many of my friends are getting rich or are at least financially very well-off. In general, I could say that they achieved financial prosperity on their own with a smart strategy, hard work, dedication, persistence and stamina, but there’s always also strong support from the environment present – family, ecosystem, market trends, investors, best schools, and so on. You need both. Nobody can succeed alone. On top of that, I always liked studying successful people from all over the world, who are most often also rich (people on Forbes’ list …
Barry Allen might be the fastest human alive, but I can definitely eat faster than he ever will. There’s one thing that could put me in the Guinness book of world records (I can eat 3 bananas in the blink of an eye), yet eating slowly is some of the best health advice ever when it comes to diet and nutrition. How unfair can life be? I must put tremendous effort into eating slowly; and to be completely honest with you, I manage to do it approximately half of the time. To stay optimistic, that means I’m halfway there. Based on my own observations and some research, let’s look at the main reasons why you should eat slowly; or at least torture yourself to do so.
People who are naturally assertive had their needs properly met when they were young. Thus, they developed a sense of trust, autonomy, initiative, industry, clear identity and great capacity for love. All that gives them the inner strength to go after their goals. But even if you aren’t naturally assertive, you have the power to change that. By developing healthy assertiveness, you’ll feel more confident, your relationships will improve, negative feelings will go away and you’ll feel much better and happier in general. You know that it’s better to live a single day as a lion than years as a sheep.