The abundance of time: There’s actually always enough time

Never complain about the lack of time. There’s plenty of time in a day, enough time to do meaningful work, spend time with the people you love, rest, and seize the beauty of the day. And besides that, time was created in order not for everything to happen at once. Don’t overestimate what you can achieve in a year, and don’t underestimate what you can achieve in five years’ time. If you keep the long-term perspective, there’s enough time for everything.

From reactive to proactive time management

The switch in your mindset that will bring the fastest results in your productivity levels is called going from reactive to proactive time management. What do I mean by that? Being reactive means that you react to every stimulus from the environment, immediately as it happens. Going from a reactive to proactive approach to time management is pretty simple. You just have to decide when, where and how you’ll react to external impulses and communicate your productivity rules with others.

How to say no to people to keep focus on your own goals

If you want to be highly productive in life and keep focus on your own goals, you have to learn how to say no. It might sound harsh to say no to people almost all the time, especially because feelings of guilt can kick in, but it’s really an easy thing to do. The trick is to make “no” your default answer to everything. Your decision making shouldn’t start with the question – “should I do that or not”. Your decision making should start with “absolutely no”. Then you can start convincing yourself otherwise. You can ask yourself a few

Relationship circles – The most important diagram of your life

Research shows that if you had to choose one variable that influences the quality of your life the most, it would be relationships. It’s not money or fame or good looks, it’s relationships. People who are deeply connected to their friends, family, co-workers and even the local community live longer, are healthier, happier, more fulfilled and live a better life in general. The good life. A very good start to relationship proactivity is to map all the people who are present in your life. List all the 150 or so people that interact with on a regular basis and then arrange them in four categories; actually, in four different types of circles, based on how close they are to you.

The key lessons on how to become a great leader of any organization

An organization is only as good as its leaders. It’s absolutely true that too much hierarchy can kill the company’s creativity and productivity, but so does an absence of great leadership. Some companies experimented with a flat organization without any leadership at all, and soon found out that people felt adrift, like lonely islands without support, when they weren’t being led properly. But becoming a good leader is not an easy job. Developing yourself into a great leader is one of the toughest challenges one can set for themselves. That’s why you can find thousands of books and research articles written on the topic. I cherry‑picked the best ones, describing the key personality and behavioral traits of great leaders.

Healing your emotional self – if you don’t like your body, you don’t love yourself

Parents serve their children as mirrors. Parents (together with the immediate family) are the only real reference a child has, and thus parents’ words and behavior present the core source of information about a child. If parents don’t provide an accurate mirror, namely that a child is a valuable human being that deserves love, respect and encouragement no matter what, that leads to never‑ending emotional suffering in later years. Healing your emotional self offers a really good overview of how big of an impact parents have on raising emotionally healthy children. It explains typical abusive behaviors of parents, from abandonment, neglect to overprotectiveness, as well as to what kind of damages such behaviors lead. It also offers many great strategies and exercises for healing your emotional self if you were raised by abusive parents.

The Gifts of Imperfection – Conquer shame and embrace who you are

The book The Gifts of Imperfection: Let Go of Who You Think You're Supposed to Be and Embrace Who You Are explores the power of love, belonging and “being enough” by cultivating courage, compassion and connection, all with the goal of developing resilience to shame. Each of the 10 chapters in the book explains one virtue that can help you overcome the feelings of imperfection and live a more meaningful and happier life. The main idea of the book is that when you develop shame resilience, you finally get a chance to let go of who you think you’re supposed to be and embrace who you really are. That’s something the author calls Wholehearted Living.

On becoming a person – How the right kind of relationships can facilitate personal growth

We all share the urge to expand, extend, become autonomous, develop, grow, and mature. We all long for self-actualization, to enhance the self, and reach the ultimate state in which we can express and activate all the inner capacities we possess. We all want to become as integrated and effective as possible, and we all wonder who we really are. Yet it seems we have almost forgotten how the most fundamental positive change and long-lasting personal development in humans actually occurs. It might surprise you, but the most fundamental and lasting change happens in warmly emotional and expressive relationships, where mutual respect is present, and where non-possessive caring is exhibited. This kind of relationships facilitate true self‑realization, based on permission for one to freely express themselves.